Chivalry Should Be Dead, From a Woman’s Perspective
I recently read an article published by John Picciuto on Elite Daily about why chivalry is dead, from a man’s perspective. He advises men to spend money on taking a girl out in order to get a second date and sex.
Here is an excerpt from the article:
The real problem here is that women, for one reason or another, have become complacent and allowed men to get away with adhering to the bare minimum. We no longer have to put in the effort of flowers, chocolates, dates, etc., and if we do, we come off as stage-five clingers.
He goes on to say:
Eventually, I feel that women will wise up and start asking for the things that they deserve, the things used to be automatic and expected of men, like holding a door, pulling out a chair, and paying for dinners. Until then, men are going to get away with putting in the bare minimum and receiving what we ultimately want anyway—sex.
Sorry, John, but I disagree. You claimed that no one dates anymore, that “it’s all about hooking up, getting a number, grabbing a drink and getting down.” But, according to a study led by the University of Chicago’s Department of Psychology, only 9% of couples meet at a bar while 19% meet through friends, 22% meet through work, and 30% meet online. Sorry, you’re probably not “the only single guy [you] know that actually takes a girl out to a restaurant on a first date.”
Plus, who says that’s what women like? Being a woman doesn’t mean not enjoying drinking and hooking up as well as going out to dinner. People have different interests that do not define them as a person. Lastly, taking a girl out to dinner does not make you a nice guy. It makes you a manipulative guy who thinks acting a certain way guarantees you what you “ultimately want anyway.”
In my opinion, chivalry should be dead anyway. Chivalry is a one-way street that requires guys to show women a level of politeness and respect without return. Instead, it is time to support universal respect. It doesn’t impress me when you open the door for me. It impresses me when you open the door for anyone who needs it. Being a nice guy is more than taking me out to dinner. It is giving me the same respect that you would any other human being. Let’s replace chivalry with common decency and respect.