I recently read an article published by John Picciuto on Elite Daily about why chivalry is dead, from a man’s perspective. In his article, he advises to men is to spend the money to take a girl out to a restaurant because you’re more likely to get a second date, sex, and good food.
Here is an excerpt from the article:
The real problem here is that women, for one reason or another, have become complacent and allowed men to get away with adhering to the bare minimum. We no longer have to put in the effort of flowers, chocolates, dates, etc., and if we do, we come off as stage-five clingers. … Eventually, I feel that women will wise up and start asking for the things that they deserve, the things used to be automatic and expected of men, like holding a door, pulling out a chair, and paying for dinners. Until then, men are going to get away with putting in the bare minimum and receiving what we ultimately want anyway—sex. It’s pretty obvious that women own the cards, and when they start acting like it, they’ll finally start getting dinner from places that don’t deliver.
Sorry, John, but I disagree. You claimed that no one dates anymore, that “it’s all about hooking up, getting a number, grabbing a drink and getting down.” But, according to a study led by the University of Chicago’s Department of Psychology, only 9% of couples meet at a bar while 19% meet through friends, 22% meet through work, and 30% meet online. Sorry, you’re probably not “the only single guy [you] know that actually takes a girl out to a restaurant on a first date.”
Plus, who says that’s what women like? Just because someone is a woman doesn’t mean that they don’t enjoy drinking and hooking up as well as going out to dinner. People have different interests that do not define them as a person. Lastly, taking a girl out to dinner does not make you a “nice guy.” From what you wrote, it makes you a manipulative guy who thinks acting a certain way guarantees you what you “ultimately want anyway.”
In my opinion, chivalry should be dead anyways. Chivalry is a one way street that requires guys to show women a level of politeness and respect without return. Instead, it is time to support universal respect. It doesn’t impress me when you open the door for me, but when you open the door for anyone who needs it. Being a nice guy is more than taking me out to dinner. It is giving me the same respect that you would any other human being. Let’s replace chivalry with common decency and respect.